Pornography use, or “porn addiction”, is a common and often misunderstood part of modern sexuality. For some, it remains a neutral or even healthy outlet; for others, it can begin to feel out of balance—disconnected, secretive, or misaligned with personal values and relationships. Therapy provides a supportive, non-shaming space to explore your relationship with porn—what role it plays, what it may be numbing or reinforcing, and how to move toward sexual expression that feels more authentic and intentional.

My work on this topic is guided by American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), which emphasizes sexual health over shame, understanding over labeling, and autonomy over control. Rather than relying on outdated models of “sex addiction,” we’ll examine the broader context—stress, emotional regulation, attachment patterns, and cultural messaging around sexuality. This approach recognizes that what’s often described as out-of-control sexual behavior is frequently a coping strategy developed to manage deeper emotional needs, and that genuine change comes from insight, compassion, and practice—not shame or restriction.

Together, we’ll clarify what healthy sexual expression means for you, reduce secrecy and self-judgment, and build tools for mindful, values-based decision-making around sexual behavior. The goal isn’t abstinence unless that aligns with your values—it’s agency: the ability to engage with sexuality in ways that feel connected, grounded, and congruent with the life you want to live.

My approach to porn use is about cultivating understanding, balance, and freedom. Healing happens not through suppression, but through awareness, self-acceptance, and the courage to forge a new relationship with desire.

If you’d like to read more about AASECT position on sex addiction and porn addiction you can read more here.